Take your eyes off the screen

hey you readers...

Sorry about my disappearance once again. Blogging is kind of an art. It needs a free mind set to make an interesting one. And some series of happenings to write on.

Today i thought to write about internet/online friends. The word it self sound very exciting isn't it? How ever in reality it might not be the same way.
You might feel blessed to have a good online friend. Some one you could talk to when your bored, sad or lonely. If that's all you expect from that somebody, which will never be.

A day would come, where a mere conversation about how there day and your day has being might not be enough. So its online...anything could happen.
But at the end of the day, your the victim.
When your chilling in a chat window it would seem no harm would happen. But with time pass the online friend becomes so close to your heart. And few words he punch on his key bored could bring you to tears. May be your not important to him/her as you think you are.
True enough that sounds ridiculous. But 75% of web users undergo this situation.
Why people are so depended on the web. And some one you met online who you have never met in real life, may be about some one you really don't know any real details about....
Theres a lot more happening around you folks. When did you last smell your mommy`s delicious food, how beautiful the flowers blooming in your garden, how peaceful it is to read a book by a window....What have you being doing all this time, but talk with a stranger who dosnt really care about you.
There are hundred million things around you waiting to make you happy. All you have to do is take your eyes of the screen.

Story about us

hey you.....

This might not be interesting for any other reader. Thought it would bring a smile to your face when you much need it. The story of us!

Week one, day one....The first day we met. Few days after your birthday. Met by just couple of words typed. In a normal messenger. Saw you.... some 2D pictures. I thought we should be friends first. Later i was regreting saying that. I have enough and more friends for God`s sake.

Day two... I said lets think about building a relationship. Thought it would be easier since there were less barriers. Parents knows each family, horoscopes match and so on....

Week two......Theres 5 hour time difference, and 1000 odd miles of distance. I have seen his graduation pics, all the tours and trips he has gone in. And we are becoming inseparable. Sharing almost all the secrets in our lives (i have never told any one before). I really dont know why i did that.

Week three.....I reluctantly gave you my number. At that time the idea of talking didnt sound comfortable. And I thought my mom wont like it either. Any way...it turned out better than i expected. In fact you sounded uncomfortable(sounded really) remember how you hated your foreign assent. lol....

Month two,Week four.....Its hard to believe words could do connect people this much. You asked me to your office Christmas party and for a stroll in your neighborhood.

Week five.....Its definitely getting quite intimate between us. You came running home after work. You even missed working out at the gym on some days. We really didnt have much time to think about how much we love each other or how attractive we are to each other.

Week six......I think at this time we have spent too much time with each other. So I Went out of home for the weekend. You didnt mean so much, not to spend single day without talking to each other.

Week seven......A new week. I was waiting more than anything to talk to him. You told you remembered your ex gilr friend. And its becoming hard to live with out her. No one could fix you up with some one new. And thats why you came into so distant land. You prefer to stay single forever....I couldnt stop my self by saying you that i love you.

Week eight.....We met on and off in messenger. Just to say hello. I cried every night after we meet up for the hello.

Week nine....Starting to realize its hard to live that way. Was loosing sleep even on the days i dont see him. Blocked him from the messenger and deleted from freinds list. Started applying for jobs.

Week ten....Got an interview call from a firm I have applied long time before. Quite competitive it was. For my utter surprise i got selected.

Week eleven.....Starting to have a good time at office. And there were not at al sleepless nights, since work finishes at 10.30pm and i get home by 11. And fall down to bed.

Week twelve.....I mailed him. Telling that I got selected to this new place. And how busy the work is. I also told him to keep in touch and we`ll be friends no matter what.

Week thirteen.....After coming from work I came online. And saw you. It was pretty late in his time. You said you miss me.....

so its leave me alone time.....

hi all,

today i thought to write about being occupied after a break up. or when your in a "to be - or not to be" situation. (break up/separation might not be forever)

Just after a break up occupying yourself for something other than thinking about him or her might sounds like the least idea or the impossible. Give it a start, may be your relationship is not over yet. It just need some time to get the missing pieces back.

Avoid spending time alone. Thats highly dangerous. May be its true you are a slow music lover and go into romance movies. But you would have to stay away from those for a little while.

Set yourself a target. So you can work towards it day and night. Which will give less chances for you to think about how did you end up like that. Only office work cannot make you busy. Get busy with something you love to do. For a girl it could be home decorating (decorating your room, stitching sets of cushions to match the table mats, get membership of an arobic session, etc....) And if your a guy....still theres more than your office of course. (bloging is a good idea [a special topic each day], and if you like social service take part in those, get membership in a gym or go jogging early in the morning)

And also getting use to the single life again would be hard in the begening. But its not impossible. Thats how you were. Before you met that person. Try to get over the habit of checking your phone every 5 minutes to see a missed call or a text message form him/her.

Be strong minded where ever you go. May be even in the messenger. You could not flirt around with him any more. So its better to avoid him than starting a conversation. And if hes avoiding you as well, that does not exactly mean he dosnt love you. May be hes also trying to get his life together. Give him the time he needs.

The time you spend alone with yourself is equally important as the time you spent with each other. May be this is the opportunity to be bit more independent, treat your self and go back to the times you spent being single. With your girl pals and mates. Watching movies, partying and going out. Some adventure wont do any harm. As long as your heart remains with him.

These points would come in handy in an event where your not getting enough attention form your partner. In both situations he/she needs his own time. If you hate her for not paying attention, may be you are not ready for a long term relationship yet. If your planing on 10, 15 years ahead there would be many leave me alone times coming.

falling in love

hi all...thought to start writing again. It ease your mind. And takes off the pressure. Today I thought to talk about falling in love. I had many crushes in my life. The first one was when i was around 15. When your having a crush...you think thats it. If you get him or her the whole world is yours. And you dont need nothing more. But what exactly you know about that person to be so sure your life is going to turn better after you get him/her??? May be when you start to get to know that person you would realize...may be this one is not for me.

After some time pass by I realized having a mere crush is pointless. And start thinking about what really is falling in love?? Met some guys and was interested on some. Was asked out by many. But never wanted to begin a relationship.

It never occurred to me what really is love until, i met this guy. It is surprising how i fell in love. And thats a story to hear about. So thought to continue it brand new. :)

Falling in love is such a wonderful thing. It could make you into a whole new person, take off your sorrows or make you devastated, make you feel strong and confident.....

Love gives a hope to the life. People live for the love they have for a certain person. Few years back it sounded so stupid to me. How could a person live for some one else. But now am realizing how that works. Its truly fascinating.

When a person falls in love, it dosnt matter what ever happens around him/her. Only love could change there mind set. Either make him sad or make him jump with joy. So be confident about what you feel. Have faith in your love. And believe your feelings (even it has never being felt and seems so unreal and impossible)

Its not impossible to live when you fall in love and if that person is not around you.

Only you can make your love live or die.

eclairs

am writing again after a long time. And glad i found some time to do so. Its like the time has passed so fast. The last blog i wrote was when i was working. Now again am at home. Having loads of fun. Cooking, stitching , gardening and so many other things i love to do.

Am also in a break with my boy friend (it could be a "break up" too) its all up to him. I tried everything. And missing him so badly.

On the times i miss him. I cook something i crave to eat. The last thing was chocolate eclairs. I saw them in a shop window/ have a look at them every time i pass by. So thought to give it a quick try. Unfortunately the oven kept on for extra 5 minutes. It came out with a black cover. (the recipe says keep longer if you need them hard, that means to off the oven and let it stay inside) "Good hands in cooking comes with practice". So i thought to make them again one day. May be with a savory filling. The black once...i filled with chocolate butter cream and covered with melted chocolate and condensed milk. They turned out to be yummy.

to be or not to be.....

some times even God dont have answers. may be time does?? then it would be too late. does all the questions need answers.
its a practice. to live with no questions or no answers. stop planing, thinking about the future or questioning your self how it would be. life becomes less complicated then.