today i thought to write about being occupied after a break up. or when your in a "to be - or not to be" situation. (break up/separation might not be forever)
Just after a break up occupying yourself for something other than thinking about him or her might sounds like the least idea or the impossible. Give it a start, may be your relationship is not over yet. It just need some time to get the missing pieces back.
Avoid spending time alone. Thats highly dangerous. May be its true you are a slow music lover and go into romance movies. But you would have to stay away from those for a little while.
Set yourself a target. So you can work towards it day and night. Which will give less chances for you to think about how did you end up like that. Only office work cannot make you busy. Get busy with something you love to do. For a girl it could be home decorating (decorating your room, stitching sets of cushions to match the table mats, get membership of an arobic session, etc....) And if your a guy....still theres more than your office of course. (bloging is a good idea [a special topic each day], and if you like social service take part in those, get membership in a gym or go jogging early in the morning)
And also getting use to the single life again would be hard in the begening. But its not impossible. Thats how you were. Before you met that person. Try to get over the habit of checking your phone every 5 minutes to see a missed call or a text message form him/her.
Be strong minded where ever you go. May be even in the messenger. You could not flirt around with him any more. So its better to avoid him than starting a conversation. And if hes avoiding you as well, that does not exactly mean he dosnt love you. May be hes also trying to get his life together. Give him the time he needs.
The time you spend alone with yourself is equally important as the time you spent with each other. May be this is the opportunity to be bit more independent, treat your self and go back to the times you spent being single. With your girl pals and mates. Watching movies, partying and going out. Some adventure wont do any harm. As long as your heart remains with him.
These points would come in handy in an event where your not getting enough attention form your partner. In both situations he/she needs his own time. If you hate her for not paying attention, may be you are not ready for a long term relationship yet. If your planing on 10, 15 years ahead there would be many leave me alone times coming.
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